You have friends. I have friends. We all have friends. The question is…. What type of friends do you have? It has been said that friends are like parts of a tree; each part is necessary, but some are far more important than others.
The Party Friend = Leaf
You don’t hang out with the Party Friend often. This person is always up for a good time. To them, life is about the present. They may be fun to be around, but their intentions are self-driven. The one you should really not lean on and especially, not the one you confide in. This is also known as the “fake” friend… a stepping stone, if you will. They smile in our face one minute and stab you in the back the next. One minute they are beautiful– innocently providing shade like a good leaf does. The next minute, BAM! They are clogging up your pool drain in no time flat. You don’t find a fake friend–you catch them. Like the leaf, the Party Friend is seasonal — they come, go and when
your use their use has been exhausted, they blow away and reappear in the spring.
The Convenient Friend = Gnarly Branch
The convenient friend is just that — convenient. They only come around when it is to their benefit. Often times, the convenient friend is using you to get to someone or something else. Closely related to or an extension of the Party Friend (leaf), the Convenient Friend is one you definitely need to keep at arm’s length; especially, when a man is involved. They are sometimes referred to as “Scandalous Hoes” or “I Cut a Bitch,” according to my resources :) The Convenient Friend is like those scraggly or annoying off-shoot branches that are there for who knows what purpose while hogging all of the nutrients from the other parts of the tree. Solution? Cut the
bitch gnarly branch off so the rest of the tree can flourish.
Sister = Root
We have to love the Sister!! The Sister is the one you lean on– the one you tell your deepest, darkest secrets to. The one you can’t wait to tell whatever it is that just happened; good, bad, or indifferent –you still want her to know. We sometimes are not a fan of the Sister, because she won’t sugar coat anything– Ever. Not even when we don’t want to know the truth (like how many calories are in this hot fudge sundae that I’m about to devour even though I have a pair of jeans I need to fit in by next month). The root is forever strong and always sturdy — as their job is to feed and foster growth. Whether related by blood or just a damn good friend, neither distance nor time can keep the Sister away. She is firmly rooted in your life whether you like it or not. You find out who your friends are when shit goes south… The friends that hang around when things get ugly are your roots.. KEEP THEM and treat them like gold for they have seen you at your worst and love you anyway! (shout out to @Gingersnaap37)
I challenge you to take inventory of your friends. Prune and rake what needs pruning and raking. Water, talk to, and cherish what needs watering, cherishing and talking to in order to keep the roots in your life healthy🙂
What part of the tree are you???